INTERMARRIAGE, SHOULD IT BE STOPPED?
I have been holding back a long time
now from addressing one of the major concerns of our people.
How can I stand here and write that the non-Jew you might
have fallen in love with is not your true partner and is a
mistake? Well, the truth shall set us free and it is
speaking the truth that my site is all about.
There are many liquids that don't mix because one of
them keeps rising to the top. It is not that non-Jews are
inferior. Rather, a Jew was created with extra tasks, a
higher soul with the ability to fix things in the world. The
partner chosen from on high is, and always will be, a fellow
Jew. One’s bashert is part of their own soul and
therefore must be from the same type of liquid.
When a non-Jew marries across religions, its not so
crucial. But when a Jew, a person endowed with Hashem’s (G‑‑d’s)
given tasks marries outside, they are suppressing
themselves. Not only have they surely chosen the wrong
partner, which can lead to a life of stress, but they become
lost without the completion provided by their true soul
mate. Their soul will always feel lacking.
If only it were easy to separate one’s emotions and
see clearly. It’s important to avoid dating non-Jews to
avoid this love trap that can block one’s vision for truth.
People who have found themselves in serious relationships
just assume that all is dandy and this friend they have
picked can just convert to Judaism. Well, my friends, would
that be real? To convert for a person, and not for the sake
of the Torah specifically, and the Creator of the world?
One has to be a big person to say ‘No, I will not
marry outside’ when their heart tells them this guy is the
one. Well, he is not. The pain will pass. Save yourself
from the mistake of a lifetime in two worlds. Be patient and
you will soon find your true Jewish partner. Be patient my
friend. :) Learn more about your roots, hold off and
learn more. The error of marring the wrong partner can cause
years of pain and sorrow.
People often say, ‘I didn't set out to find this
non-Jew.’ Well, did you set out not to? Please be careful.
:) Learn more about yourself and your heritage. Socialize
with your fellow Jews and find yourself a mensch!!